How Does Being Married Feel Different?

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Justin and I are only 2 months into marriage and we are noticing some pretty significant changes in our relationship. In this video we explore how being married (making this huge and powerful commitment in the presence of dear ones) has changed our partnership. Since being married, we have been asked several times, “So, how does it feel to be married now? Does it feel different?” What has continued to surprise both of us is how deeply supported we now feel by one another and the relationship. The container of marriage has generated a powerful foundation for us to deepen and rest, as well as to create and expand, individually and together.

This powerful foundation has led way to some awesome co-creativity too. We are super excited to announce our new Ten Agreements Program, launching November 18th! Singles and couples are invited to come join us for a deep dive into the power of agreements. This is an online interactive program with live video calls, audios, loads of content and weekly videos. Each Wednesday evening for 10 weeks we will explore topics like: Authenticity, Commitment, Healthy Space & Together Time, Emotional Intelligence, Sex & Intimacy, Creativity & Purpose, Spirituality, Money, and many more. For more information visit: http://www.DailyRelationship.com/10-agreements-program/. Sign up soon for the early bird rate.  Feel free to contact us with questions. Thank you!

~ Juna & Justin

Stop Blaming & Make Friendly Requests

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When your partner does something you don’t like, do you blame and criticize them for it? Or do you pause and generate a creative way to make a request? In our experience, blaming, accusatory, or critical statements (like, “You never listen to me!”) tend not to steer us in the direction we most want to go. Instead, they typically generate the opposite results. Whereas, we create a ripe opportunity for connection if we take the time to notice that we are upset and then ask ourselves if there is a genuine (possibly vulnerable) request underneath it. In this video we explore how to do this… and we would LOVE to hear your thoughts and ideas too!

To submit a video topic please visit: http://www.DailyRelationship.com/submit-a-topic/. We adore your topics! We also are excited to announce our new Ten Agreements Program, launching November 18th! Singles and couples are invited to come join us for a deep dive into the power of agreements. This is an online interactive program with live video calls, audios, loads of content and weekly videos. Each Wednesday evening for 10 weeks we will explore topics like: Authenticity, Commitment, Healthy Space & Together Time, Emotional Intelligence, Sex & Intimacy, Creativity & Purpose, Spirituality, Money, and many more. For more information visit: http://www.DailyRelationship.com/10-agreements-program/. Sign up soon for the early bird rate.  Feel free to contact us with questions. Thank you dear ones!

~ Juna & Justin

How To Establish Healthy Boundaries

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Do you have a belief that fully opening to love means surrendering all your boundaries? Having healthy boundaries in your relationship means that you are neither shrouded in a dense wall of boundaries, nor are you completely boundary-less. In our experience, having healthy boundaries creates a solid yet permeable enough container for your love to infinitely deepen and grow. In this video Justin and I explore how to know when you have a boundary or your boundary has been ruptured. We also explore how to communicate these boundaries in the moment, instead of bypassing them and allowing them to fester just beneath the surface – eventually erupting in drama or a fight. Today ask yourself this: What boundaries do I have that I have not been communicating with my partner? How can I communicate these boundaries clearly, without shaming or blaming my partner?

If you would like to submit a relationship topic for us to explore on camera, please do so here: http://www.DailyRelationship.com/submit-a-topic/. We have over 80 free videos on http://www.DailyRelationship.com. We are also excited to announce our new program: The 10 Key Agreements for Creating a Thriving Relationship. Our program launches Wednesday, November 18th. For more information, check out http://www.DailyRelationship.com/10-agreements-program/.

– Juna & Justin

We Got Married!

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These two videos are a celebration of our love and the incredible wedding we created on June 30, 2015 in Bali. We are so grateful for all the friends and family who supported us in creating our dream wedding. Thank you, thank you!!! We are also sharing with you our wedding vows. These vows begin with what we appreciate about one another, what we have learned from each other, and finally what we commit to creating together.

What I appreciate about you Juna…

~ What I appreciate about you is everything.

~ You are the most magical woman I have ever met, and I am so grateful that you are my soulmate.

~ I appreciate your intuition.

~ I appreciate the depth of your enormous heart.

~ I appreciate all your variations of expression, and how you always keep me guessing in every moment.

~ I  appreciate your vulnerability, and your willingness to learn, grow, and discover from every interaction.

~ I appreciate your commitment to be of service to others, and your brilliant insights that come from the place where all creativity begins in this Universe.

~ I appreciate you for inviting me to create Daily Relationship, our project that has been the backbone to the beautiful union we share today, right now.

~ I love traveling and adventuring with you. I love how much we both savor food and get geeky excited about every meal.

~ I love the softness of your skin, your glow, your beautiful smile, gorgeous hair, and the warmth of your energy when I hold you in my arms. I LOVE your butt. I just want to bite it.  :)

~ And most of all, I appreciate that you love me unconditionally. Thank you for loving all of me sweetheart.

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What I appreciate about you Justin Brendan Milano….

~ I appreciate your insatiable passion for exploring, eating, adventuring and enjoying all the delightful experiences this world has to offer. For example, I love watching you go to town on a ripe, sweet mango.

~ I appreciate your constant trust in the divine wisdom and inherent goodness of this Universe. You see every single thing (an owl hoot, a crow flying past, a butterfly) all as a way that the Universe is communicating with you. You are my ageless wise Shaman.

~ I appreciate how steady and kind you are to me. My moods can turn with the winds and you are always there, steady, loving me, seeing who I truly am, inviting me to know myself.

~ I love how when we both get up to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night, you pause, reach out your arms to me, and hold me, embraced for a few short seconds as we stand there in the dark in the bathroom.

~ I adore that you are the most creative person I have ever met. Your essence is creativity itself and you inspire everyone around you into their inherent creativity. You have an uncanny ability to envision the extraordinary and make it reality. You are a brilliant connector and you see and focus on the genius in others.

~ I cherish your touch, how much you deeply care for me and what a wise and compassionate partner you are. You are a crazy tiger sometimes, passionate, fiery and delicious geeky… and at the same time you are a deeply contented and wise buddha. I love all of it. I choose all of you.

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What I have learned from you Juna….

~ You have taught me what true love is.

~ You have inspired me to be a better man.

~ You have taught me that my value can never be questioned.

~ You have taught me to own my power and show up real, authentic, and present in every moment.

~ You have inspired me to love myself.

~ You brought me to Bali, this beautiful, tropical paradise where we are forging our union in a dream wedding.

~ You have taught me how to have so much fun, to own my geekiness and to be who I am in every moment.

~ And Juna, you have showed me the path to my true SELF, and there is nothing more precious than that.

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What I have learned from you Justin….

~ To laugh when I am taking myself too seriously.

~ To savor beauty and enjoy life.

~ To see that everything is connected.

~ To dream big.

~ To take naps, everyday.

~ To challenge my relationship with fear. I challenge all the ways I have held myself back and instead lovingly stretch myself to open, everyday, to who I truly am.

~ I am learned from you how powerful and deeply creative I really am.

~ I have learned from you that ANYTHING, absolutely anything is possible.

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My Wedding Vows to you Juna…

~ I commit to celebrating you as the Queen of my Universe.

~ I choose this lifetime with you. I am in for ALL of it.

~ I commit to being the rock in your life. The stable foundation that allows you to soar into your fullest expression in the world.

~ I choose learning and growth with you in every moment, so that we may experience the greatest gift – the recognition of our true selves.

~ I commit to love over and over again. To truth. To compassion. To joy. To supreme contentment and peace.

~ I choose impeccable self-care, so we can savor each moment this lifetime has to offer.

~ And most of all, I choose you Juna Milano. You are my woman. My rascal. My soul mate. I love you sweetheart and I thank you for loving me.

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My Wedding Vows to you Justin…

~ I choose a marriage with you where we experience a continuous bounty of appreciation, support of one another and a focus on our unique brilliance.

~ Our union represents a commitment to infinite, friendly, timely expansion, creativity and awakening to our true selves. I awaken with you Justin Brendan Milano.

~ I commit to consistently choosing compassion, appreciation and allyship.

~ My prayer is that our marriage continues to inspire others to choose partnerships where the foundation is awakening together. We inspire others to use the magnified power of two in order to choose conscious love, awareness and creative expression beyond their wildest dreams.

~ I know in the deepest part of me that you are my soulmate ~ that we are uniquely designed to support each other into living our fullest potential. I commit to seeing you as my mirror and ally in living a life fully aligned with who I truly am.

~ I choose to support you in living your most alive, aligned and joyous life. A life where you offer your greatest gifts while continuing to deepen your self-love and your love for this Universe. To me this freedom is the essence of real love. I choose freedom with you Justin.

Why Does He/She Push Me Away?

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Why is it so much easier to want close connection and intimacy when it is just out of reach, yet when it is right in front of us, we push it away? What is with this push/pull dance in relationship?? In this video we explore a topic submitted by one of our viewers – she is wondering how to skillfully navigate her partner’s consistent push/pull dance. Ironically, this is an issue that has become front and center in our relationship (especially as we move towards marriage- the ultimate union).

If you want to watch more of our free relationship videos go to www.DailyRelationship.com or submit a video topic go to http://dailyrelationship.com/submit-a-topic/. Thank you so much!

– Juna & Justin

Are You in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship?

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How do you know when you are in a psychologically or emotionally abusive relationship? How do you effectively transition out of this kind of relationship, while also taking steps to break old patterns so that you can create healthier relationships in the future? This week we explore this important topic – which was submitted to us by one of our viewers. In this video we share some of our past experiences where we felt stuck in unhealthy or emotionally abusive relationships. Thank you so much for submitting this topic. We have found it very useful to look at online resources which explore emotional and psychological abuse. In case you or someone you know is in this kind of relationship, here are some helpful online articles: http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/10/13/21-warning-signs-of-an-emotionally-abusive-relationship/. Here is another one: http://liveboldandbloom.com/11/relationships/signs-of-emotional-abuse. Lastly this one:  http://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2014/08/5-sneaky-things-narcissists-do-to-take-advantage-of-you/.

If you want to watch more of our free relationship videos go to http://www.DailyRelationship.com or submit a video topic go to http://dailyrelationship.com/submit-a-topic/. Thank you so much!

– Juna & Justin

Afraid of Your Partner’s Emotions?

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How do you respond when your partner shares that they are having big feelings (like anger, fear, sadness, jealousy, etc.)? Do you close down and tell them you are not available to hear their experience? Or do you take a deep breath, remind yourself that it is ok for your partner to have feelings, and then open to fully hearing them? In partnership, stuff inevitably comes up. Anytime something arises and we have the capacity to be with ourselves in the face of it, it is truly an opportunity to build intimacy and deepen your connection. Yet, it is our fear of being in close proximity to these uncomfortable feelings (within ourselves first and foremost) that grows and strengthens the walls of disconnection in our relationship. Which do you choose?

Thank you for submitting a topic for the video this week. To check out more of our free videos… over 80 of them, go to http://www.DailyRelationship.com. To submit a topic for one of our weekly videos, go to http://www.DailyRelationship.com/submit-a-topic/

Thank you!

– Juna & Justin

Are You Afraid to Get Support?

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In this video we explore the importance of getting outside support for your relationship. Often times we can resist this support because of our beliefs around what therapy or relationship coaching means (for example: we are broken, it has gotten really bad, I must have serious issues, etc.). We can also resist it as a denial strategy – sometimes it feels safer not face what is going on. In our experience, getting outside support has been instrumental to the ongoing health of our relationship. We get sessions regularly from therapists, coaches, and mindfulness practitioners. And, we are relationship coaches, available to support you as well! To learn more about the coaching Justin and I offer, check out http://www.DailyRelationship.com/relationship-coaching/. We would be delighted to hear from you!

All our love,

Juna & Justin

Feeling Unworthy of Love

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Do you ever find yourself asking your partner, “Are you sure you really love me?” Or, “Why are you in relationship with me?” Do you ever play sly little games to test how much your partner loves you?

Feelings of unworthiness create a tremendous amount of suffering in relationship. And, when we project our own unworthiness onto our partner, we only increase the suffering, drama and disconnection.

Justin and I are 6 weeks from getting married and big stuff is continuing to come up (as it should – this is a big step). I have been feeling both nuttily excited and increasingly vulnerable. Instead of getting present with my vulnerability, I had been resorting to testing him – to see if he still fully chooses me and if he still fully loves me. Sound familiar?

The other night I was testing Justin again and we decided to get to the bottom of what was arising for me. The core of it is, I have been feeling unworthy of marrying this incredible man. Yep, I said it. Some deep little part of me keeps saying, “How could this amazing man fully choose me given all of my control issues, fears, and manipulative-nut-ball-behaviors??”

Feelings of unworthiness are very common in us human beings. So many of us walk around not feeling good enough. We feel that we are broken or not fully lovable. We make up the story that we can only be truly loved if we are “perfect.” And if we aren’t perfect, we are unlovable. The truth is, there is no such thing as a perfect human. We all got our stuff. True love is our ability to love and accept all parts of yourself and your beloved.

Instead of continuing to project my own unlovability on Justin, I have owned that this is my stuff. I have now made the powerful commitment to fully love all parts of myself – particularly those parts that have been the scariest to love. Each day I place my hand on my belly and imagine flowing love to all those shadow parts within me.

Our Invitation: As you continue to deepen in your relationship, notice how those feelings of unworthiness arise. Do you find yourself asking your partner, “Why do you love me?” Or “Are you sure you love me?” Instead of projecting this on your partner, use it as an opportunity to recommit to loving ALL parts of yourself (yes, that means loving your inner mess too). To see more free videos or to submit a topic for us to explore on video, go to: www.DailyRelationship.com. Sending you our love.

– Juna & Justin

Why Do I Keep Dating the Same Kind of Man?

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Do you find yourself recreating the same kind of relationship over and over again? Are you dating a different person now, but still playing out the same old and tiresome relationship issues?

Recently a viewer of Daily Relationship submitted this topic: “Why is it that I am consistently creating the same kind of relationships over and over again? Men who can’t commit, and who lie, cheat and withhold. I have been doing lots of personal and spiritual growth, yet this is the kind of man who keeps showing up.”

Thank you so much for submitting this topic. This is of service to many people who can relate to this experience. Here are some of our thoughts around this issue….

What if you were able to see that what happened in the past, and what is happening right now, as perfect? Justin and I consistently attempt to look at reality from the context of, “How is this experience perfect right now? How is it supporting my larger awakening?” (FYI, this do not mean acquiescing in an unhealthy or abusive situation, it actually might mean that taking direct and timely action is actually part of your “awakening”). Embracing the larger perfection of what is happening can be a really challenging perspective in the face of being lied to or cheated on… and, as Justin said, sometimes we need to see what we don’t want in order to fully choose what we do want. Sometimes we need to see it consistently to fully choose something different.

Our second offering is the invitation to fully commit to you. When clients of mine share that they consistently create relationships where one or both of them do not fully commit, I ask them if they are fully 100% committed to themselves (thank you Kathlyn Hendricks for this one). Are you fully here with yourself? Some of my clients have even bought rings for themselves and worn them as a symbolic gesture of being committed to themselves. Are you willing to give to yourself that which you most desire in relationship with another? Honesty, transparency, tender caring words, etc. In our experience, making the big commitment to give yourself that which you most want from another, is a huge step in increasing self-love and growing your capacity to attract those that will mirror your deepest feelings about yourself. 

Thank you so much again for submitting a video topic. We appreciate the opportunity to explore in this way, and we both learn so much in the process. If you would like to submit a topic, you can send it here: http://dailyrelationship.com/submit-a-topic/. For more free videos or to share your thoughts with us, check out: www.DailyRelationship.com. Sending so much love!

– Juna & Justin

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