Do you ever feel like there is something going on with your partner, but you don’t quite know what it is? Would you like to learn the most reliable way to recognize what is going on within your partner and yourself?
Justin and I are huge fans of listening to the clues and signals that our body gives us (aka. “body flags”). Our bodies are so smart, they often respond and give us clear signals about what is going on before our minds and thoughts can even catch up. This is why our dear friends Kathlyn Hendricks and Lamara Heartwell are teaching people around the world the art of “body intelligence.”
Case in point this past weekend when I began to experience super knotted shoulders and a tight neck. Then I promptly bit my lip which turned into a nasty canker sore. During the weekend, Justin asked me a few times if I was angry. I would respond with, “No, not at all,” because I truly could not sense any anger. Yesterday, my stiff neck was at an all-time high and Justin persisted, “Hey sweetie, do you really think you’re not angry?” This time I actually took in his feedback, closed my eyes and got curious, was I really angry? As I wondered about it I realized that yes, my body had been trying to tell me that I was angry… I was angry at myself. This truly surprised me, and when I landed on it, it felt completely true. I had overworked myself to make up for taking some days off last week, and my anger was simply an indicator of how I trespassed myself by not taking care of myself. Interestingly enough, after coming to this realization, my tight shoulders/neck symptoms subsided.
As partners we have the opportunity to support each other in being able to see these body flags and come into greater presence around what our body is telling us. These flags might show up in a variety of areas – back of neck, upper shoulders and jaw tends to be where anger festers. Heaviness in chest and collapsed shoulders tends to be an indicator of unexpressed sadness. Butterflies or digestion issues can be an indicator of fear. When you notice body flags it is an opportunity to bring an emotion into greater presence using breath, curiosity and compassionate awareness. Also check out Louise Hay’s “Heal Your Body App” which ties physical symptoms to unresolved emotions.
Our Invitation: Noticing body flags is a great way to know what is really going on with yourself and your partner. Pay attention to what areas of the body seem to have the most flags and get curious about what your body is trying to tell you. We are on the journey with you and would love to hear your thoughts and ideas on our website, Facebook, and YouTube. Also, if you have a topic that you would like for Justin and I to explore on camera, feel free to submit your requests by following this link: http://dailyrelationship.com/submit-a-topic/. Thank you!
- Juna & Justin